About ten years ago I moved from New Mexico to Hawaii to retire in Paradise.
Many years ago I attended an EST seminar in Chicago (the Werner Erhardt self improvement deal). It was enlightening and, of course, worth while. The fulcrum of the "Event" was the communal effort/struggle to get "IT"while under the supervision of an EST trainer (who had been trained by Werner).
One of the psychological tecniques was the presentation, and sometimes mutual discovery, of 'aphorisms."
One of the more interesting of those was, "Being Right is the Booby Prize."
But, I feel that perhaps I digress.
The beauty of it all includes an ongoing realization that I am not in control. My own experience has been that if I relax with an open mind (a real challenge 'til I recently 'grew up') I receive messages that will direct me unerringly tward goodness and rightness if I receive/grasp/ the messages, which come like lightening.