Selfishness can be a Devil’s tool to blind us to who we really are.
We have the freedom of choice to reject any option, but our finite mind lacks the understanding to realize the importance of the choice, and so defaults to selfish or indulgent or reckless or foolhardy etc. etc.
It is usually not wise to fly on automatic pilot. Life is not that safe… and sometimes a smooth landing changes all that comes after.
There is a flight manual for each of us…
Mine is the Holy Bible